One of the biggest sources of anxiety for the sandwich generation is their elderly parents. If you are in your 60s, your parents would probably be in their 80s. If they are still active, independent and in good health, you can count yourself blessed. As long as your parents are together, they can look after each other. But what happens when one parent passes on? Is the surviving parent able to cope on her/his own?
If your elderly father is staying with you, who keeps an eye on him when both you and your husband are at work? What about career women who are single? Your mother is alone at home all day. Do you worry about leaving her by herself for so many hours every day?
Why not?
- “Our house is too small, and there’s no spare room for her.”
- “My dad refuses to move from his hometown. He wants to die there in his own house.”
- “My mother says she prefers to be where she is – in familiar surroundings and with her own friends.”
- “We can’t afford it.”
- “My mother doesn’t trust an outsider.”
- “What if the maid ill-treats my mother?”
- “We can’t afford it.”
- “People would say we are not filial.”
- “My father refuses to live in a nursing home.”
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One day it will be our turn to make our adult children worry about us. What will our decision be then? Will we have control over where we want to spend the rest of our lives?
My 86-year old mother is in a special home for dementia care. She is very happy there, and never fails to invite her visitors to ‘stay there’. It’s a long story how she ended up at the home. I shall write more about this in another blog post.
Lily thanks for relating this very important issue of our generation. I would want to continue to live in my own house.
Thank and do have a nice day.
Pak Idrus, who wouldn't like to live in their own house when old. What is your reason of not wanting to live in children's house when circumstances forces?
Option 2: Put your parent in a decent home. – End of quote
Lily, is there REALLY any good home?
All are in it for the money!
Not only that, it costs a bomb to do so.
Actually, the young also have their financial problems in this inflationary world.
In fact, it's a no win situation.
Most people just take each day as it comes along.
I want to live in my own home and not just another house. In my home I have total freedom to think and do what I like and the way I like best. That is why as long I am healthy and able to think clearly I want to live and enjoy life in a familiar environment that I call home.
I am thanksful that my kids have bigger house but I still love my home. Only when you get to my age would you understand what I am saying.
Take care folks.
Parents feel so lonely when their own children leave them.And they just have an option of going to an old age home.Seniors don't want any expensive things from their children they only need love from their surroundings,just love.
elderly care
My mother also suffering from dementia and now condition worsening and is now bedridden. Can you share which Nursing home you put your mother in?
Frankly, everyone knows abuse and mistreatment will happens in nursing home, but what choice do we have? The really good ones are probably way over what i can afford, so what can i do? Sometimes, it's not a matter of choice anymore. Choice is only for those who can afford it.
Senior Care at Home is a good option. Most seniors prefer to stay at home because they feel comfortable, independent and secure in familiar surroundings.Their family can support by modifying the house as per requirement so that seniors can move around safely.A dedicated and trained home care provider can make a positive change in their life.Home care is also cost effective.